Britney Spears’ Conservatorship

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Britney Spears’ conservatorship has received a lot of ink lately. Yet, much of the public does not know what a conservatorship is or how it differs from a guardianship. In California, a guardianship protects a minor. Conversely, a conservatorship protects an incapacitated adult, specifically by protecting their estate (money) or by overseeing the decisions they […]

When exes disagree on the Covid vaccine for children

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To get or not to get. That is the dilemma facing many parents today concerning their children and the Covid 19 vaccine. Mom says yes; dad says no. Or vice versa. What should be done when exes disagree on the Covid vaccine for children? Both sides have legitimate concerns. The pro side argues that studies […]

Is Divorce Mediation best for me?

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Everyone wants to avoid litigation and its accompanying anxieties and inconveniences. Divorcing couples are no different. Some have chosen the alternative path of mediation and have saved money and suffered less heartache. Others found mediation to be a disaster, costing them more in money and in grief in the long run. So if you and […]

Child Custody and Summer Plans: Tell Your Ex NOW

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Imagine buying plane tickets and hotel accommodations for an Aruba vacation for you and your children, only to have your former spouse tell you he/she has already made plans on those dates for the kids to visit relatives in South Dakota or Wyoming? Or imagine enrolling your son in a four-week baseball camp run by […]

Spousal Support: It can get nasty

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In the past two blog entries we addressed custody and child support. In this post we will discuss the most incendiary of all topics for divorcing couples: spousal support. “Why should I pay her support so she can sit home on her butt. Let her get a job!” Or if the woman is already working, […]

Child Support: Let the arguments begin

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Not many topics will set off as many fights between divorcing parents than child support. Neither side is ever happy with the judge’s decision. The payor believes they are being robbed because “my ex is not really spending it on the children.” The payee believes the judge is not recognizing “how expensive it is to […]

Custody and the incorrect assumptions parents make

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If there is a Rule #1 in Family Law that spouses should follow during divorce proceedings, this is it: Do not listen to friends, family, or others who have been through their own divorces, or who believe they know “the system.” Usually they are wrong—and sometimes very wrong. The most important thing a client can […]

Is California Family Law better today than it was 30 years ago?

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I struggled a bit writing this. I thought it would be easier finding examples proving that California Family Law is better now than it was 30 years ago.  Truth is, I’m not sure there have been many improvements since I began practicing in the 1990s. Yet, despite the similarities to 30 years ago, it is undeniable […]

Your out of court behavior matters

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What happens in Vegas may stay in Vegas, but what happens outside the courtroom will not necessarily remain outside the courtroom.  Do not mistakenly believe that as long as your conduct is okay inside the courtroom, you can do and say whatever you would like in all other situations. Many an ex has made this […]

The Dos and Don’ts of Court – Avoid self-sabotage

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In a courtroom, as in life, first impressions matter. However, in a courtroom second, third, and fourth impressions matter also. Winning a case is difficult enough without adding obstacles, such as the judge disliking you because of your behavior. And it happens more often than you think. So before standing in front of a judge, […]