Child Custody and Summer Plans: Tell Your Ex NOW

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Imagine buying plane tickets and hotel accommodations for an Aruba vacation for you and your children, only to have your former spouse tell you he/she has already made plans on those dates for the kids to visit relatives in South Dakota or Wyoming? Or imagine enrolling your son in a four-week baseball camp run by […]

Child Support: Let the arguments begin

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Not many topics will set off as many fights between divorcing parents than child support. Neither side is ever happy with the judge’s decision. The payor believes they are being robbed because “my ex is not really spending it on the children.” The payee believes the judge is not recognizing “how expensive it is to […]

Gathering evidence for court – pt. II

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In Part I of “Setting the Record Straight” I offered three (3) tips for gathering evidence for court: Take screenshots, videos, and pictures; Follow up phone or in-person conversations with documents; and Remember that if it is in writing, it can (and probably will) be used as evidence. Below are three (3) more recommendations that […]

Gathering evidence for court

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“Get it in writing.” How many times have you heard that warning? Whether it is a warranty for a car or an appliance, or a receipt confirming your return of merchandise to a store, the rule is the same. Get hard proof when you are gathering evidence for court.  Court is no different, whether it is trial […]

A Father’s Day Blog Post

A Father’s Day Blog Post (Ed. note: this was originally written in 2013, but it is as relevant today as it was then.) It’s Father’s Day and I had a great day I spent in that bittersweet way that only a father in a blended family can have. I had my four and half year […]

Bill Of Rights For Children Of Divorce

A great article from several months ago by Julie Ross and Judy Corcoran deserves a repost here with proper credit.  They are marriage and family therapists who developed a Bill of Rights for Children of Divorce.  These are very basic tenets that any divorcing parent should follow and something I urge all of my clients – male […]

Calculating Child Support

Calculating child support is contingent on two major factors: timeshare and income differential between the parties.  In basic terms, if you earn significantly more than your ex-spouse you will likely make a child support payment even if you have the children the majority of the time.  California public policy is that the children’s love should not be […]