Choosing The Right Lawyer

Choosing the right lawyer can be difficult. Of course cost is a major factor, but it is not the only factor. In fact, it may not even be the biggest factor, especially when choosing a divorce lawyer. There is also the success rate of the lawyer, the personality of the lawyer, the reputation/conduct of the […]

Children In The Courtroom: A New Rite Of Passage

Children In The Courtroom: A New Rite Of Passage.   Time was when a child went through a teenaged rite of passage with the elders of his or her clan.  Such a rite of passage might have included learning a Hebrew poem, an important dance, or going off into the woods on a solo adventure. In […]

A Father’s Day Blog Post

A Father’s Day Blog Post (Ed. note: this was originally written in 2013, but it is as relevant today as it was then.) It’s Father’s Day and I had a great day I spent in that bittersweet way that only a father in a blended family can have. I had my four and half year […]

Bill Of Rights For Children Of Divorce

A great article from several months ago by Julie Ross and Judy Corcoran deserves a repost here with proper credit.  They are marriage and family therapists who developed a Bill of Rights for Children of Divorce.  These are very basic tenets that any divorcing parent should follow and something I urge all of my clients – male […]

Legal Victories And Moral Victories

First Steps – Learn the difference between legal victories and moral victories Your soon-to-be-ex is a no good, cheating, lying jerk!  But for all of the nonsense he/she has been pulling for the past twelve years, your marriage would be intact and harmonious.  Now everyone involved is suffering and you don’t just want to get […]

Calculating Child Support

Calculating child support is contingent on two major factors: timeshare and income differential between the parties.  In basic terms, if you earn significantly more than your ex-spouse you will likely make a child support payment even if you have the children the majority of the time.  California public policy is that the children’s love should not be […]

Text Message Anonymizers

In a recent and ongoing matter, I have come up against something I did not know even existed, the presence of text message anonymizers that apparently allow a user to send a text message to a phone with a fake phone number attached – in my matter, the phone messages were purported to have come […]

It’s Time To Start Thinking About No Fault Child Custody Proceedings

A great op-ed piece in the New York Times by Ruth Bettleheim on February 18, 2010 tackles a important issue in the family courts: no fault child custody proceedings.  So called “No Fault Divorce” which is now 42 years old in California, paved the way for couples to get divorced based on “irreconcilable differences” and removed the […]

Get Your Divorce Worked Out…Outside Of Court

This is a repost of an excellent article by a Chicago divorce attorney with 48 years of practice.  He basically points out that virtually all divorces in which there are any means settle outside of Court, but not before it ends up costing the parties a good chunk of the money they have collectively saved.  In my […]