When exes disagree on the Covid vaccine for children

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To get or not to get. That is the dilemma facing many parents today concerning their children and the Covid 19 vaccine. Mom says yes; dad says no. Or vice versa. What should be done when exes disagree on the Covid vaccine for children? Both sides have legitimate concerns. The pro side argues that studies […]

Spousal Support: It can get nasty

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In the past two blog entries we addressed custody and child support. In this post we will discuss the most incendiary of all topics for divorcing couples: spousal support. “Why should I pay her support so she can sit home on her butt. Let her get a job!” Or if the woman is already working, […]

Child Support: Let the arguments begin

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Not many topics will set off as many fights between divorcing parents than child support. Neither side is ever happy with the judge’s decision. The payor believes they are being robbed because “my ex is not really spending it on the children.” The payee believes the judge is not recognizing “how expensive it is to […]

Custody and the incorrect assumptions parents make

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If there is a Rule #1 in Family Law that spouses should follow during divorce proceedings, this is it: Do not listen to friends, family, or others who have been through their own divorces, or who believe they know “the system.” Usually they are wrong—and sometimes very wrong. The most important thing a client can […]

Is California Family Law better today than it was 30 years ago?

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I struggled a bit writing this. I thought it would be easier finding examples proving that California Family Law is better now than it was 30 years ago.  Truth is, I’m not sure there have been many improvements since I began practicing in the 1990s. Yet, despite the similarities to 30 years ago, it is undeniable […]

Gathering evidence for court – pt. II

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In Part I of “Setting the Record Straight” I offered three (3) tips for gathering evidence for court: Take screenshots, videos, and pictures; Follow up phone or in-person conversations with documents; and Remember that if it is in writing, it can (and probably will) be used as evidence. Below are three (3) more recommendations that […]

Gathering evidence for court

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“Get it in writing.” How many times have you heard that warning? Whether it is a warranty for a car or an appliance, or a receipt confirming your return of merchandise to a store, the rule is the same. Get hard proof when you are gathering evidence for court.  Court is no different, whether it is trial […]

Bill Of Rights For Children Of Divorce

A great article from several months ago by Julie Ross and Judy Corcoran deserves a repost here with proper credit.  They are marriage and family therapists who developed a Bill of Rights for Children of Divorce.  These are very basic tenets that any divorcing parent should follow and something I urge all of my clients – male […]

Calculating Child Support

Calculating child support is contingent on two major factors: timeshare and income differential between the parties.  In basic terms, if you earn significantly more than your ex-spouse you will likely make a child support payment even if you have the children the majority of the time.  California public policy is that the children’s love should not be […]